Welcome to this week’s Blonde Intelligence with me, Ms. Roni where I always seek to give you exquisite cranial repertoire. This week’s subject is domestic disputes turned domestic violence. Not to be confused with domestic abuse because there is a difference. I will clarify. Over the past several days I have had discussions with women on their personal experiences with domestic disputes and disturbances. Some of the experiences, I shall say aye yai yai…. First, just what is a domestic dispute?
A domestic dispute is disagreement between a spouse, significant other or family member that escalates to the point of police intervention. Now if the domestic dispute turns physical then it is classified as domestic violence. The official definition of domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over the other partner in an intimate relationship (Hotline, 2020). The subject is strictly isolated episodes not patterns of abuse to be absolutely clear. The point of the matter is, should the police be called and is it domestic violence? Because women can be MrHitDatHoe too.
First Woman’s Experience
Lady One allowed her brother to move into her apartment with her. The first two months he did not have an income, but kept company every day. She spoke with him about his company and eating her food. She shared that in the third month that he came in and threw some money at her and said there’s your money. She picked the money up and slapped him in the face with it. She had to Buster Douglass him. She shared that if his friends had not been there to intervene, he probably would have beat her ass. I asked what were her intentions when she slapped him in the face with the money? Did she consider it domestic violence? Do you?
The Second Woman’s Experience
Lady Two had found out that her boyfriend had been cheating on her. She shared that one day she went to ask him the question at the park where he was playing basketball. She asked him, was he cheating on her with a specific woman in question….. Dude fell out on the ground crying in front of everybody saying that he would never cheat on her. He went on to say he didn’t know why anyone would lie on him like that and that she could go ask the woman. Lady Two went to ask the woman and her answer was, yes…. Long story short, later that night she caught them again. As he began to talk he began the lying….her hand laid one down….on his face. I asked her why did she do that….her answer was, I just wanted him to stop lying. Should the police have been called? Again, do you consider this domestic violence?
The Third Woman’s Experience
Lady Three shared an experience of when she was married to an alcoholic. The man had too many drinks and came home drunk. He came and got into bed and after a few minutes she felt something warm. This ninja was urinating in the bed. She pushed him telling him to get up. He was so drunk that he laid naked on the floor and urinated again. The woman got up, got his belt and whooped his ass. Had he called the police when he sobered up would she have been charged? Would you consider this domestic violence?
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Domestic abuse is serious. If you need to report domestic abuse call 800-799-7233 for the National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hotline, N. D. (2020). National Domestic Violence Hotline. Retrieved from Abuse Defined: https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abus